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Dry orgasm

I had my prostate removed 5 weeks ago. All went well. Nerves were spared cancer did not spread. I have no continence issues. I have good erections with the help of Viagra, however when we have sex it feels like I am wearing two condoms. There is a build up towards climax but nothing happens. No sort of orgasm. Is this what a dry orgasm is? I hope not. I know from reading the survivor stories that everything has gone pretty well. But this is not what I signed up for.

Any thoughts?

Re: Dry orgasm

Joe, Just five weeks out from surgery might be a bit soon to make any judgments yet. You are VERY fortunate to be having erections at this point already. I am guessing you are on the younger end of the prostate cancer brotherhood. Orgasms will be different, no doubt about it. This fact is often downplayed and there are even some who claim their orgasms are better(?). Many honest men will tell you that about two thirds of the experience is missing along with their prostate. There will still be the pleasurable muscle "spasms" as normal but the pleasurable experience of actual build up and ejaculation and the relaxing experience of accomplishment and well being after will likely be missing. Like some other effects of treating this disease, this loss is not often warned about ahead of time. In the end, is it something worth trading your life for? Always keep that in prospective when dealing with the after effects of treatment. Hang in there! We are all here to help and be helped. Jon.

Re: Dry orgasm


Thanks for the timely response. I am 61 so not so young. I am in pretty good condition. Somewhat of an exercise nut. You are correct this aspect was absolutly under played. I had at least 3 doctors tell the sensation would be the same just nothing would come out. That's simply not true. When the pathology was done they found that only 3 percent of the prostate was involved.
My 67 year old brothers was 70 percent involved.
I feel like I got railroaded into the surgery years before it was necessary.

Thanks for reading my rant,


Re: Dry orgasm

Joe, I know exactly how you feel about "being railroaded" into treatment but as always with this disease, there is a catch. You should remember that the best way to beat this disease is to catch it early on. With only three percent involved, that may be exactly what you have accomplished. It is the law of diminishing returns - if that makes any sense. Waiting till it is seventy percent, drastically increases the chance that you won't be able to get rid of it. Even though you may enjoy more years of normal life, you might then be at risk for a shorter, troubled life. Pay me now or pay me later comes to mind. The unpredictability of this disease makes any decision open to afterthoughts and questionable outcome. Don't beat your self up over it. (I put off treatment for just one year and I now know that was very unwise and regret not doing something right away. That is the other side of the coin as you are looking at.) At least you know you acted on the best of the bad choices you had right away and have the assurance you did your best to obtain the most positive result. I know this all sucks but you have to live on the positive side, difficult as that is at times. Jon.

Re: Dry orgasm

In general I dry orgasm refers to the absence of semen following whatever climax occurs.
Jon has effectively addressed many if not all of your other concerns.
Best wishes Don O.