This forum is for the discussion of anything to do with Prostate Cancer. There are only four rules:
No fundraisers, no commercials (although it is OK to recommend choices of treatment or medical people based on your personal research; invitations to participate in third-party surveys are also acceptable, provided there is no compensation to YANA);
No harvesting e-mail addresses for Spam;
No insults or flaming - be polite and respectful at all times and understand that there may be a variety of points of view, all of which may have some validity;
Opinions are OK, but please provide as much factual evidence as possible for any assertions that you are making
Failure to abide by these simple rules will result in the immediate and permanent suspension of your posting privileges.
Since this is an International Forum, please specify your location in your post.
Anne methinks you are in a difficult situation. I suspect the problem is either one of avoiding possible personal embarrassment or the more involved one of "why have I come to this". The former is relatively easy to deal with. In Australia we have RN's that specialise in contingency management and they have a variety of measures to promote continence. If the problem is the latter then perhaps counselling may be warranted. But I agree that your plan to discuss you concerns with the Doctor is a good starting point.