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Re: refusing to leave the house

Hi John, thanks for your reply. To answer your question, yes he is doing pelvic floor exercises. Just yesterday he saw the nurse who confirmed he was doing them correctly. Re improvement. No there hasn't been much improvement, although from the outset it has never been very bad. He is getting through 3/4 pads a day. He finds that he dribbles a bit when moving around.

There is no logical reason preventing him from going out and socializing. Its clearly a head thing. On the rare occasion that he was willing to discuss it he said its degrading.

I've decided on a plan. Clearly he has to move at his own pace, but I cannot allow him to become a recluse. So I have put a time limit on it. If by christmas he still refuses to leave the house (other than for hospital appointments) then I am going to seek help from my doctor. Not sure how that will go down, or even what help the doctor can offer if he is unwilling to accept it, but I will have to give it a try.

Its strange I think. My worry when he was diagnosed with prostate cancer was all to do with how well he would recover physically. In reality the psychological is what's causing the problem.

What do you think of my plan?

Re: refusing to leave the house

As you well know us guys are extremely sensitive about our bladder control and let's say masculinity (which of course are inter-related).
If and when he begins to gain control, your husband may begin to regain his confidence.
In the meantime you might consider contacting his PCa caretakers (his surgeon and nurse?)to discuss your concerns. These specialists are more likely to be more knowledgeable about these issues rzGE39than your personal physician.
Best wishes Don O.

Re: refusing to leave the house

Anne methinks you are in a difficult situation. I suspect the problem is either one of avoiding possible personal embarrassment or the more involved one of "why have I come to this". The former is relatively easy to deal with. In Australia we have RN's that specialise in contingency management and they have a variety of measures to promote continence. If the problem is the latter then perhaps counselling may be warranted. But I agree that your plan to discuss you concerns with the Doctor is a good starting point.

best wishes,
john

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