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i have issues with anxiety and depression my husband who has had the protechomy last year has ed and does the injections that work how many of you cant help but feel alittle irked that your husband can no longer get fully hard with you anymore and do you express that anger what do you do hoqw do you handle it
Hi Stacey, you question is perhaps one better directed at the ladies for an answer in keeping with a feminine perspective. But alas as none have been forthcoming thus far, I shall try to give you a biased male perspective.
Nowadays I too also use penile injections (tri mix) in order to have intercourse with my lovely lady. At times she has also hinted at some disquiet re the lack of spontaneity. Fortunately we have a very loving relationship, having been married for over 40 plus years. We both understand that without the necessary jab our love making simply would not occur and that something rather special in our relationship would be missing.
I had a chat on this issue to Mrs Bonneville to glean her thoughts, and whilst she confirms your view that an au natural spontaneous arousal of passion would be her preferred choice, she has had to alter her thinking somewhat in view of my ED. She suggests perhaps you should focus more on what you have, rather than what you would like.
From a biased male perspective Stacey, believe me it is no fun sticking a needle in your penis in order to have intercourse. But being erect is my part of the arrangement that I need to uphold, and undertake whatever means necessary to that end (well almost, LOL). Mind you the fact that we can still enjoy intimacy goes a long way in summoning up the courage to load up the syringe for that little jab.
Well stated John. You and Mrs. Bonnevlle did the rest of us proud. Hopefully Stacey and her husband will benefit will benefit from your thoughtful response.
Hi Stacey
I would love my Husband to still want to be intimate with me and most importantly have had the chance to have had a prostatectomy so he had a better chance of survival. My husband has been on Zoladex for 6 and a half years now (which is now failing) He has no desire to even kiss me(apart from a peck on the cheek) touch me or anything anymore. I don't feel like a woman any more. There is no sexual contact what so ever between us. So I think you are quite lucky that your Husband even wants to try to have sex. Not being desired by your husband is heartbreaking. We were only married for 3 years when he was diagnosed with incurable Prostate cancer. It's been very very tough. Desire is a human need and instinct for most people. Sorry to be blunt. Enjoy what intimacy you have with your husband.
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