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Claudia, you are right to be concerned about the doctor in question given what you say: "I was very concerned when his urologist pre-emptied his surgery date without notifying him, had no record of his pre-op physical results furnished his office, and only 150 DaVinci RLP surgeries."
You are both doing all the right things: taking your time, getting more opinions, and trying to stay calm and focused. I do think that unless you have a really very good reason to do so, you should not use a urologist who has only done 150 procedures. (See Paul A's experience).
As Terry has said, when you have made up your mind, whether that is intervention of whatever type, or Active Surveillance, go for it and put all doubts out of your mind.
You will both survive this as a couple. My wife and I have had to discover new ways to be together but we have done that and are closer now than ever.
Have a wonderful holiday and keep us all in touch.
I believe your husband will be fine escpecially with you by his side. I also just wanted the cancer out, but my dear CALM wife took over and made sure we had all of the facts. My uro actually set up consultations with a radiologist and other surgeons. My wife, (and this site) were my strengths through the entire process. January will be my second anniversary since the procedure and WE are doing better than ever!!!! Hang in there and stay calm.
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I had similar diagnosis and was encouraged by every doctor and urologist I met to take some time (ranged from 2-4 months) to get second (and third) opinion, discuss things with my spouse, meet a few doctors, etc. And THEN decide what to do.
Should you go for surgergy its crucial that you carefully and thoughtfully evaluate the surgeons record. As noted here, robotic surgeons ideally have done over 300 procedures and do them regularly.
I ended up with the robotic prostatectomy in June 2009 (was diagnosed in January 2009). It was a very managable experience, and I am a good example of someone who comes out of the process in good shape (undetectable PSA, no incontinence, slowly regaining erections).
The fact that you are supporting your husband and working together on this is great and bodes well for happy life together, regardless of the course you chose.
