My condolences on the loss of your father. I'm sorry that you are having to deal with your mentally ill mother. I can relate. We moved my mom into her own house after driving my brother and his family crazy. She fought tooth and nail. We had to pack all of her stuff, because she would not lift a finger! She sabotaged the whole effort. She hated it at first but now realizes that she likes living alone. I visit her every day for an hour. It's not an easy road, but I try and keep myself sane by taking care of my family and myself. She too throws my caring for my family in my face that I don't care about her and that I'm being a bad daughter. Oh well. They'll never be happy. Hang in there. Peace