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Help....dad just died and I inherited my mentally ill mother!
My father recently passed away which has now left me with the exhausting job of caring for my mentally ill mother. She is 57 and I am 37 with two small children and a husband. My mother has OCD and Bipolar disorder. She has always been very selfish and demanding and wants me to wait on her hand and foot, even more so now that her husband has died. Im worn out. Im not sure she can take care of herself, but I also know that me and my family are miserable with her living with us. She demands all of my attention and wants me to ignore my children, husband and friends. She refuses to live in assisted living. She could get a small apartment. Not sure how she will do there. Am I terrible for just wanting her out of my house so I can have some privacy and peace again for me and my family.
Re: Help....dad just died and I inherited my mentally ill mother!
My condolences on the loss of your father. I'm sorry that you are having to deal with your mentally ill mother. I can relate. We moved my mom into her own house after driving my brother and his family crazy. She fought tooth and nail. We had to pack all of her stuff, because she would not lift a finger! She sabotaged the whole effort. She hated it at first but now realizes that she likes living alone. I visit her every day for an hour. It's not an easy road, but I try and keep myself sane by taking care of my family and myself. She too throws my caring for my family in my face that I don't care about her and that I'm being a bad daughter. Oh well. They'll never be happy. Hang in there. Peace