Hi!
Children who grow up in unhealthy enviroments typically experience low self esteem issues and depression. Geting your wife in counseling may help her deal with the emotional rejection of her father, and help her to learn to love self. There's not much one can do for the dad, unless he poses a danger to self and or others, then one can call 911 for help in geting him the help that he needs.

Good Luck!
Your not alone!